Social Media - Use it, Don't abuse it!

Okay, I know this blog is going to be in the face of many for whom social media is "THE" thing! If you love social media too much for your own good, do not even read further as there may be a few 'ouch' moments. For those who dare to change, question where we are heading and want to live with a little more freedom, these stats are for you:

Many researches suggest that the number of people with SMAD (Social Media Addiction Disorder) is increasing day by day. Google it and you may find some harsh facts restating this truth. If you use social sites to market your business, an art form or to find a job, you are not an addict if you use it for a limited time everyday.

For the others who use social media for everything but the work they do, let us have a reality check:

1. Do you really think all the people who follow/friend you are significant to you? Do you think you and your life is any important for most of them? (STOP FLOODING THEM WITH UNIMPORTANT DAILY UPDATES FROM YOUR LIFE! They have enough of their own to deal with!)

2. Do you think anybody cares to see your personal life and sleazy love messages that you post through updates to let the whole world know? (I'm sorry! If you love a person, spend all the time you have with them! How can you leave few precious minutes of being with them and display your new found love to the whole world? Even if that person is far away, you can call that person or see that person to say what you want to. Why should the whole world be a witness to all that's cookin'? Sorry, but you need to start loving 'actually' and stop displaying 'virtually'. Try and limit posts that are very close to your personal life.)

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3. Do you like seeing crazy check-in's and people showing off each & every possible place on earth they go to? (They don't like it either! Most of them are thinking in their head "This guy/girl is such an ***. How could they go to places I have never been to :/" and after thinking that, they hit a like button and comment "Wow! where's that?" :D Sorry, but I guess you got what's intended in here as all of us do it in some form or the other, at some point of time. It doesn't mean you can't share important events with friends. Do it if you really need to, but make sure you don't inundate them all the time.)

4. Is it important to spend hours(killing time!) and keep stalking a friend's friend or even strangers? (I understand if you are away from your friends and need to keep in touch. But why this need to check on some person sitting at some corner of the globe, who is anyway not interested in you? You are wasting time that could have been used to meet existing friends and family. As they are the only ones who matter!)

5. Do you use social media to wish your close friends and relatives on any of their birthdays/anniversaries? (Okay, you can wish friends you can't phone. But guys! You need to have the courtesy to give them a call or drop a personal message if they matter to you!)

These are few highlights of my observation of people on social media. If you have any more or disagree with something, do post your comments below!

Now, you must be thinking 'Now that I understand it isn't healthy for me, how much of social media information do I consume everyday?' or 'How do I make sure I use it and not abuse or overuse it?'

Firstly, no one can teach you how much social media is healthy for you. Good news is, you decide how much you wish to indulge! Make sure you have a life outside your smartphones and laptops. Go out with the people you love, make new friends, connect with old relatives and friends and see them! There is nothing as blissful as being the reason behind your friend's or family's smile. Make memories, be a part of them, don't worry to post it on Facebook or Instagram! Just live in the moment! You will die with all these memories that make your life, not with how popular were you with social sites or how many 'likes' you had. Stop worrying about the 'likes' or 'followers', start to 'like' and in fact love your own life. Capture memories, pictures can always accompany. 'Tweet' the sound of your inner being in your life and let melody play in each action you take. Be your own 'favourite'. 

Live in the moment! NOW is a very important moment. Fill it with memories to treasure.

Also, I reckon that this video be watched by every person - Look Up, Youtube . It is an amazing video on how we should leave the smartphones and remember to 'look up!'

Wish that you take all that I said in a positive way and learn from it. If I have unintentionally hurt your feelings, I am extremely apologetic. 

Remember to use and not abuse social media! Come out of the virtuality & live the actuality! :)

Go Higher, Go Beyond...

Before I begin writing on this topic, I would like to thank all of you for being such treasured readers! Each one of you, known and unknown to me, have showered me with appreciations so great that i can't believe it's me! :p I would like to specially thank my friend Apu (Apurva), who made it to the semi-finals of India's Got Talent 6 (huge congrats!). She always surprises me in different ways. She is indeed a gift to me and I hope all of you get friends who make you feel happy to be alive and kickin'! :)

"Be the best person you look forward to meet"

We've heard the above a million times, in different ways. But we simply don't wanna pay heed as we are too comfortable where and how we are! The saddest truth of our age is that most of us live in 'self-deprival' modes. 

Did you know that almost 7% of the U.S. population is diagnosed with depression? (Source: https://bbrfoundation.org/depression) Depression is the most common mental ailment in the US. And these my dear friends! Are the statistics of the largest economy of the world! (Source: http://www.investopedia.com/articles/investing/022415/worlds-top-10-economies.asp) Can you envision what must be the mental health of people who barely manage to scrape one meal a day? 

If your reading this, I am sure you are lucky enough to get your meals on time and can afford much more. The point in discussion is, that no matter how rich economies and people get, many of them are lonely, hollow inside, sleepless, sad, complaining and wanting to run away from life, if given a chance. Many of them sadly give in and end their lives, when a million unfortunate ones dream of a life they once lived. It is sad but true, that even when you sit out there and complain or are angry at your life or god, there are millions who are praying to have the job that you have or to live in the house that you live in or to have the love of the family you have. You just have to open your eyes to the blessings that surround you! And believe me, they are countless!

Now, coming to the topic of this post- How do we go higher and go beyond? To rise above and beyond, we need to rise from our old belief systems and reprogram our minds with a software that serves us! If you are happy and content with the life you live, you needn't even read further! :) For the others, it is important that a serious reprogramming be done(If and only if you wish to lead a better life for your own good).

Nobody but your soul( or mind or whatever you choose to call it), is the greatest teacher you can have! Nobody taught you how to breathe when you were born, nobody taught you how to swallow your food down. Thus, the soul is the greatest source of knowledge that you have, the only thing to do is connect to it and tap that knowledge source. Be honest and try asking yourself, 'when was the last time I met myself?' I'm sure most of us don't even know what meeting our own self means!

Let me make it a little simple for you - When you sit in the quiet of your mind, when you have no noise to disturb you(not even the noise of waste, day-to-day thoughts), when you can feel your feelings, THAT is being with yourself. When that quiet is within you, you just want to live in that peace for hours. It's a high no other drug can give! When your conscious mind is quiet, the subconscious takes over. This subconscious is the soul - a powerhouse of knowledge and wisdom. When you activate it, it becomes the manifester of all your desires and gives you an immense sense of power. You can catch the vibes of people around you and become wise enough to judge and take decisions that serve you best. 

It is not some impossible, crazy ideas that I am sharing with you. It is my experience that this beautiful energy lies inside me, and inside you too, if you connect to it. I am a normal human just like you, I do get angry, irritated and crazy at times but they just pass by like a storm and I soon get back to my peaceful self with learning for the future.

I will let you decide how you want to reprogram your old belief system if it no longer serves you. You have an unending stream of wisdom inside you, just remember to tap it. Keep learning and growing, cause when you stop learning, you start dying. No matter what your age, you can still learn that guitar or a new language or whatever you choose to! Learning makes you feel alive as you become a better version of yourself after everything new that you learn.

My only wish is that YOU go HIGHER and BEYOND the old version of yourself! Be the person you love, after all you are the only true soulmate who stands by you(even after the last breath).

Try taking a break from the drama and say hi to the beautiful you! :) *Smiles*

Are We Human Beings Or Human Doings?

I came across the word 'human doings' a few years back and found it such an interesting concept that I knew I would be writing/talking on it some day.

We all know what a 'human being' means. All religions have different meanings of the word. The most common being- 'Human' means the body that we have and the 'Being' is the soul or the energy that fuels life in this body. That 'Being' is the decision maker, the thinker, the controller of actions, the epicenter of emotions and a lot more we could possibly comprehend.

Now let me explain how the word 'human doing' hit me. It was when I was watching sister Shivani from Brahmakumaris on TV. It was an amazing revelation to find out how we human beings have unknowingly become 'human doings'. We all have what we want or will soon go buy it, we live in amazing houses, holiday in hotels, swing on planes, eat more than required, BUT we don't have the time for ourselves. All said, we have a typical way of reacting or responding to day to day situations. Everyday, the same traffic, the same old reactions to the traffic, the same mistakes at work, the same reactions to our subordinates, the same politics, the same disgust towards politics, the same hunger games, ah! This list will be unending!

The same routine and the same old reactions that we have point out to something important. And this is what I wanted to draw your attention to! We have turned into 'human doings' as we have the same set of actions and reactions to all situations that hit us. We have become automated in that sense. We have become so accustomed to a particular way of thinking, working and reacting, that we don't even realize we have a 'choice' at every possible stage of our lives. Our belief systems are built on the bedrock that reinforces the belief that it's so-called 'natural' to give a particular response to an external stimuli. As we know we will be angry when the work assigned is not done or the spouse we live with acts crazy! This is how automated we have lead ourselves to become. We are just 'doing' things, just because people said they are right or just because someone made us believe that they are right. Have you stopped and thought where is this rule book of right and wrong? Where are these guidelines to 'living a righteous life' written? Eye opener huh?

So do you want to remain a 'human doing' or turn into a human being? A 'being' that is always aware of the actions it takes, a 'being' that is much much bigger than the situations that face it, a 'being' that is never a slave to it's emotions and a 'being' that is capable of doing much more than the human mind can comprehend. And a 'being' that always and always has a 'choice', no matter how difficult the circumstances look like. 

Welcome to a new world of thinking and a world of human beings! And remember to 'be' the beautiful being you are. Cause you are a masterpiece on planet earth. Always remember that!

Wishing you luck! :)

My first blog post

Hello my dear readers!

This is my first personal blog! I had been writing blogs at my previous employment at JamBuster Technologies and that’s when I realized my passion for content and blog writing. In the blog posts that I will be writing, I will be focusing on life, philosophy, asking logical questions and of course! Looking for interesting comments and feedback from my readers.

So this will be a blog that will NOT involve any direct/in-direct Marketing, Selling or the like! This is just a small effort from a Marketer (ME!), who loves discussing about life, the situations in it and merely observing where we are heading as a civilization (which is not that civil most of the times :p). It’s my earnest endeavor to evoke new thinking in my readers and ask questions that trigger healthy discussions. 

I acknowledge and respect the fact that the topics that interest me, may not be a topic of interest at all for few people. That’s completely a matter of choice and I respect that! For the people who love asking questions about life and discussing new ways to deal with it, this blog attempts to do exactly that! I would love to hear from my readers. Do feel free to ask questions, cross-questions and even better! Share your own experiences! All of your comments will be acknowledged and answered for sure. :)

I wish each and everyone reading this, an amazing amazing life and all the curiousness to explore it! 

Cheers to a good life!